Download or read book How to Get Your Wife to Shut Up written by Grant Stenzel and published by . This book was released on 2013-09-01 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As a former pastor and current counselor I have poured into the lives of many people in the last 20 years. My latest passion, marriage work, has taken up the last 7. I am a marriage counselor and I speak at various churches on marriage issues. Lately, I created a "Husbands' Boot Camp" that I present at churches. My wife wrote the foreword, giving credibility to what I have written. We have been married for 20 years and she is also a counselor. My heart hurts to see divorce and awful marriages in the church. We as Christian men are called to be so much more, and I believe most men want to. I believe they don't know how. The book title came out of a counseling session. I was counseling a typical couple and the husband did not seem very motivated. In an attempt to get him motivated I simply asked him "would you like to learn how to get your wife to shut up?" The wife glared at me confused and a little angry. The husband wouldn't answer because there is no safe answer to the question. I went on to teach him about reflective listening, validating, not fixing, and what his wife was really looking for; connection. Thirty seconds into the conversation the wife was nodding approvingly. I believe husbands are often scared of their wife's emotions, so they try and fix or shut them down so they don't have to deal with them. My hope is that husbands become less fearful and learn to connect with their wives. I have continued using this technique with husbands. Once a wife proclaimed to her husband "I would totally shut-up if you did that!" My hope is the book can give husbands, typically the more ignorant of the gender about emotions and relationships, the tools to love their wives the way Christ loved the church. Moreover, I believe as husbands become better for their wives this will allow many women to blossom into who God intends them to be.